Monday, February 15, 2010

He Loves Me He Loves Me Not

Valentines, jewelry, candy and maybe even a car! So, does that mean he loves you any more?

I've read anti-Valentine Facebook posts and had several conversations about the "day of love." To my amazement there are a lot of people who do not support or believe in the holiday, my boyfriend is one. His logic and the logic of others is this...why put emphasis on buying things, showing love, on one designated day; when you should be doing this year round. I do have to also mention his disdain for the "evil empire Hallmark", whom he believes has set out to capitalize on the holiday. That being said, what do you think?

The history of Valentines Day has nothing to do with love at all. The Valentines were early Christian martyrs from the 1st century. The most notable were a Roman priest and bishop. It was not until the 14th century that romantic elements were introduced. Fast forward to 1847 when the first Valentine cards were created by Esther Howland of Great Britain. What started out as a small card business is now a multi-million dollar machine.

It's nice to receive a thoughtful card, chocolates and jewelry. I'd be lying if I said otherwise; however if one day of love and bliss is all you have during the year then something is wrong. It shouldn't take Valentines Day to hear your significant other say, "I love you and you're the most important person in my life." You shouldn't have to wait for that one day to receive flowers or jewelry. For some, it's the only time of the year that your significant other acknowledges your existence. If this is the case then there is cause for re-evaluation.

Your worth is not tied to a card or a fancy dinner. It is in the things that you do everyday like; your ability to encourage, maintain a household, hold down a job, and keep friendships/relationships in tact. No, I didn't get candy or flowers but the love and support I do get throughout the year mean far more than any material items received on one day!